Questions You Might Ask

How do I find the right Neurodivergent therapist?

This is a tough one. To me, there are affirming therapists and then there is everyone else. If I were looking for a new therapist, I would want to make sure they believed in me being me as authentically as possible. I wouldn’t want a therapist that would constantly be judging me. I want a therapist who cares about what I want for my life. Find a therapist that validates your disability and doesn’t call it an “excuse”. In my opinion, the most important part of the therapeutic relationship is finding the right fit. You aren’t going to like every therapist, hell you might not like most therapists. It is very important you find one you do. If you don’t like your therapist, you aren’t going to learn much or get very far. If you don’t like me, I suggest you find a different therapist. I set an example by being myself and dressed comfortably in the therapy space, and I want you to do the same.

Am I Autistic?

While I can’t diagnose you, the importance of self-diagnosis and self-understanding is paramount. You might find yourself on this page because you are wondering this exact thing. Let’s explore this together. You want to know: What does this mean for me if I am? Will I ever be enough? Why are things so hard for me? My goal is for you to be empowered and proud of who you are. It isn’t easy to grow up Neurodivergent, but I’m here to help you believe in yourself, figure out what you want out of life, and how to get it. There are so many considerations when you accept that you are Autistic. You have to take care of yourself and respect your limitations, whatever they may be. You are different, but there’s nothing wrong with you.

Is there a wrong way to do therapy?

No. As long as you show up, you are already on the right track. With one caveat, you have to want to do the work.

My partner doesn’t understand my challenges and thinks they are just excuses, how do I communicate effectively with them?

Boundaries, understanding, and respect are some of the most important parts of a relationship. I can help you communicate your thoughts and feelings better. I can help you set boundaries and advocate for yourself.

People say I need to be okay/better with things that I’m not good at, can you help me with that?

Why? Listen I’m not saying self-improvement isn’t important, but self-determination cannot be sidestepped. You don’t have to figure out how to do things like everyone else, you need to figure out how to solve problems in the best way that works for you. You can’t change the way your brain works. There are things that you will never be comfortable with, and just because someone says you need to learn doesn’t make it right or possible. Let’s figure out what is and isn’t possible. Let’s figure out what YOU want out of life, not what others want for you. Also, just because you want something doesn’t make it good for you, maybe you have to accept it isn’t.

Do you give worksheets?

Most of my clients have ADHD, they aren’t going to do it and neither would I. I prefer goal-setting over filling out paper. That doesn’t mean I won’t give you things to think about or accomplish in-between sessions.